Imagine looking into the eyes of someone close to you as if it were the first time, like they are brand new to you? With your attention on NOW, you allow them to show up in that moment, free of the past. Without the possibility of rehashing in your mind all they have done that you found disappointing or hurtful. Can you feel the relief in your mind no longer exhausting itself listing your judgments? Are you willing to feel the glorious liberation from the disconnection that our diagnosing of each other creates? Would you like an escape from the boring stories we tell ourselves over and over, where we cast these people as characters and interpret their motives? Who could we then meet? Someone filled with love and light as a unique expression of Divinity, or an astonishingly amazing evolved being of the Universe? Someone innocent and born again with endless opportunities to show up each day, each minute, each moment as a new and improved version of our selves. Shiny and Bright with light!
By holding that space and being open to the possibility, you give an invitation for that person to show up as a brighter version of themselves.
NOW….Imagine giving this fresh start to yourself? Allow yourself to show up shiny! Embrace your perfectly understandable human foibles and fumbliness. Accept your past. Appreciate the strength and wisdom you gained from all your challenging and painful experiences. Feel freedom from suppressing your highest self. The highest self is the self we aspire to be, who lives from love, is present with others, has a deep sense of purpose, is caring, creative, energetic, giving, compassionate, funny….the happiest you, you can picture. This is possible IF you give yourself the chance to be that self. Give yourself the chance to change what is not serving you, even if you keep doing it over and over. You are allowed and encouraged to forgive yourself, move on, try again! Fumble, f^#k up, fall, get up and go forward! Even if others are holding onto your past and allowing it to decide who you are now. You are not your past! You are not your mistakes. Mourn them, honor the values you were attempting to meet when you made them, offer amends, and choose to change.
I choose to allow myself and everyone to show up shiny! And if I forget, I forgive and choose again!